What is it with the unpredictable nature of kids, I wonder.
San, who seemed 'over friendly' at one point, abruptly went into her shell at a recent birthday party. Kids were posing for the camera with their best toothy grins and San just didn't want to show hers. She just stood there with a constipated pose. And I stood there, staring at her, wondering what happened to my butterfly. Even as the kids were running around a table, San looked different from all - she looked conscious. It seemed that she doesn't like it when people look at her while she's having fun. So what we end up seeing is not the real San.
Additionally, since a couple of days, she's very reluctant to enter her classroom in school. She actually cries and hugs me tight, not wanting to let me go. All's well in the morning, when she wakes up chanting 'I wanna go to school', and talking about what she's gonna make for me today. She's fine when she enters school. But she switches off when she's about to enter her classroom. And let me tell you that she adores everything and everyone there. I've tried to talk to her about it, given her surprises when she promised that she'd not cry, but nothing seemed to work much. The best part is that it's only a five-minute tantrum/behavior and she goes back to her happy self later. But those five minutes happily ruin my good morning mood. Hopefully, tomorrow will be a better morning!
These little things happen all the time. Change in moods, behavior, etc. But, do the mood swings happen for a reason, always? I have no clue. Because each time I try to find a reason behind San's abruptly-changed behavior, I fail. I'm not over her 'scared avatar' yet, and I've also started thinking about her ever-changing behavior. Is this normal? Of course, it is!
All I need right now is a refill of patience and some advice on 'how to get your child to tell you the real thing, not stories'.
San, who seemed 'over friendly' at one point, abruptly went into her shell at a recent birthday party. Kids were posing for the camera with their best toothy grins and San just didn't want to show hers. She just stood there with a constipated pose. And I stood there, staring at her, wondering what happened to my butterfly. Even as the kids were running around a table, San looked different from all - she looked conscious. It seemed that she doesn't like it when people look at her while she's having fun. So what we end up seeing is not the real San.
Additionally, since a couple of days, she's very reluctant to enter her classroom in school. She actually cries and hugs me tight, not wanting to let me go. All's well in the morning, when she wakes up chanting 'I wanna go to school', and talking about what she's gonna make for me today. She's fine when she enters school. But she switches off when she's about to enter her classroom. And let me tell you that she adores everything and everyone there. I've tried to talk to her about it, given her surprises when she promised that she'd not cry, but nothing seemed to work much. The best part is that it's only a five-minute tantrum/behavior and she goes back to her happy self later. But those five minutes happily ruin my good morning mood. Hopefully, tomorrow will be a better morning!
These little things happen all the time. Change in moods, behavior, etc. But, do the mood swings happen for a reason, always? I have no clue. Because each time I try to find a reason behind San's abruptly-changed behavior, I fail. I'm not over her 'scared avatar' yet, and I've also started thinking about her ever-changing behavior. Is this normal? Of course, it is!
All I need right now is a refill of patience and some advice on 'how to get your child to tell you the real thing, not stories'.
She may be going through a self-conscious phase. It's better to not remark about it but I know the feeling about the five minutes ruining your morning! My elder son used to do the same in preschool and I would hate myself for the rest of the day! :(
ReplyDeleteWhat bothers me that it's not natural of her to cry in school. Cannot do much about the ever-changing behavior of kids, I guess! :)
Deletevery true! About your question on my blog, I analyzed my own doubts and concluded (and I think I may say the same about you): First, I don't reveal my kids' true identities in any way that a person reading the blog will make out who is being talked about in real life. Second, I try to relate incidents without any judgement on my part. Third, I have and am not going to put any deeply negative account of my kids on my blog. I know some may say it's hiding facts, but I prefer to think of it as not airing my dirty laundry in public. So far, my kids have never given me any grief on that account though!
DeleteSo, bottomline, I think I'm fine keeping my blog going as it is! What do you think?!!
Thanks for letting me know what you feel, Roshni! I feel that I'm doing okay so far. I've mostly talked about the good things and some not-so-great things too, but with a touch of humor. People tell me that I can make a journal out of the blog and present it to San when she's big enough to understand what I've written. This means that people think good of what I write. And like you mentioned, till the time I'm not revealing much and keeping it healthy, I guess it's okay to continue. :)
Deleteso absolutely normal. :) They will constantly change in opnions, reaction etc... Chldren surprise us all the time. Just when we think we've found a remedy to somethng, they surprise us with something new. haha...
ReplyDeleteYes! And it's so difficult to keep up with these behavioral changes! :)
DeleteKids change all the time. Its difficult to really gauge their behaviour at times.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the above two posts as well :)
Don't worry too much, just make sure she 'knows' you are available!
Yes, Z! Change is the only constant in their lives. :) I'm making sure that she knows I'm available.
Deletekids change
ReplyDeleteso do their moms :)
true! :)
DeleteDon't worry. The point is to be there for her and that you are doing. And the behaviors are just forming for them and I believe that's why these mood swings.
ReplyDeleteyup, always fluctuating. :)
DeleteHey hope things will change for better, all the best...
ReplyDelete:)
DeleteThere is no instruction for use Divy. As we dont have kids i hear many at office My colleagues have kids alle ages with specific attitude.
ReplyDeletewith different problems Most of the time emotional ones for the moms and dads.
So Divy Dont worry....San will do just fine And each of us is an individual with pro and contra.
Be well ur good mom dont worry
thanks for the nice words, Marij. :)
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